Kim’s Super Sweet 61st

There once lived a girl who was the middle child of a large family; she had at least three older siblings and at most three younger ones. I say at least three older because the girl’s mother had suffered a still birth and two infant deaths before finally a son was born (then the rest) who survived past childhood. The girl’s parents worked in traditional folk medicine, this meant the kids were around lots of herbs and dried things (like baby mice carcasses, snakes, mushrooms) when they were younger. The girl’s father died when she was 10. I am not sure how old he was when he died, but let’s take a guess at mid 40s. Altogether, the parents had three sons, two daughters, a fourth son and then a final daughter at the mother’s ripe old age of 40.

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Intangible Lines

Boundaries are social constructs. They are invisible constructions of our minds and of society that make us feel uncomfortable or scared to step outside the norm. It’s healthy and normal to break these boundaries, and without this, the world wouldn’t be the same as it is today. Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, and even Lady Gaga wouldn’t have been so successful if they hadn’t shocked people by making decisions untainted by others.

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Top 10 Outcomes from Having a Cheating Spouse


Being cheated on by your spouse is an act of selfishness and carelessness on their behalf. What a cheating spouse might not realise is there are so many after effects caused by such a deep betrayal of trust.

It has been three years since my spouse cheated. It has changed me. It changed my whole perspective on love and life. But I am proud to say I got through it all. 

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The Law of Attraction


The Law of Attraction gained widespread popularity in 2006 when the book the Secret became an international phenomenon. Since then, the Law of Attraction has evolved from a seemingly mystical and enigmatic new age idea into a mainstream practice for attracting everything from money, love, health, and business. For those who have been hiding under a rock for the past ten years and are still unaware of this powerful universal law, the basic premise of the Law of Attraction can be summed up in three words: “like attracts like”. That is, what we attract into our lives is an exact match to our dominant thoughts and feelings, so if your thoughts are predominantly focussed on love, and your feelings positively match those thoughts, by default you will attract love into your life. Unfortunately, the same goes for negative thoughts and feelings, so if you are feeling and thinking about the lack of love in your life, you will continue to attract a lack of love.

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How to Have a Strong Marriage


A good friend of mine, and bride-to-be recently asked me what it takes to have a successful marriage. I was surprised by the question and then she explained that my marriage is one that she admires, and she looked to me for advice as she and her fiancé prepare for the rest of their lives together.

The question led to me to reflect on my relationship and on what I have learnt in the five years that I have been married. Upon my reflection it seems my friend was right to ask me for my advice. It turns out that I do know a few
things about being married.

Here are my tips for newlyweds and new couples on how to have a strong and successful relationship.

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